Tie your wrapper if you want to
Women traditionally had been considered as inferior to men physically and intellectually. Law and theology have at one point or the other supported these claims, law has however evolved over time and has become more accommodating to women, while theology has a stiff nature and is not known for evolving, it’s laws remains never changing. Women in past times could not possess property in their own names or engage in business, which is still practiced in less developed nations.
Nigeria till date is a predominantly patriarchal society, it’s very culture and society is oppressive to women, there is nothing in our culture to guarantee kindness to women. It’s not uncommon to hear much of the roles ascribed to women by society, for example learn to cook, raise the children, please the husband, remain submissive and maintain the peace. As a fact Nigerian girls are educated from childhood to become perfect wives, education might as well just be a plus to your CV. An educated cook to grace your bed and instrument of pleasure. She’s to play the supportive role and encourage your dreams, she in fact spends her life evolving and sacrificing to please men and the society while her own decisions and opinions take the back seat.
It is not easy to understand the plight of women in Nigeria and many do not in fact see anything wrong with this, this is also the reason women often turn to religion to pray instead of actualizing the capacity already embedded in them to improve society, men on the other hand have become cynical and assume that to feed, clothe and provide for their women is adequate enough, they say things like “she’s better off than most women her age, she’s well taken care of” these statements I regard as bullshit as women are human beings and not possessions to be nurtured like your pet dog or goat. I believe it’s innate in man to have a sense of importance, to want to place his or her mark on the world, its not exclusive to men to have dreams of changing the world and fighting oppression. Humans should always strive to become conscious of who we are and identify the ills we want to correct. We should understand that women too have the ability to dream, we all deserve equal chances to participate in life, the sex you are born as should not limit you.
Not so shockingly this lack of apathy for females have been embedded into the TTG system, even justifying women submission to your husband with bible scriptures (I do know it’s in the bible) however I believe the bible is also subjective to our interpretation, an all encompassing, loving God surely loves all his children equally? Wouldn’t you give your children equal fighting chances. Women also have become accustomed to this method of thinking and seek no higher calling or decisions, it’s shocking how many educated women actually have no interest in practicing their fields but instead will safely picture themselves raising a family, living a life of submission, being a good wife and dying with their sacrifices. It’s necessary however to raise your children well, I just don’t believe it’s only embedded in the genes of the women, men contribute in making babies, learn to take care of them, they’re many successful people raised by single fathers and lastly its also not exclusively in the woman DNA to clean, do the laundry and cook, grab a pot and learn, or die of hunger it can’t be harder than your years of education. Back to the TTG sector, I don’t know what they said today but from last weeks class, I was willing to correct the preacher (only in my head though) on the little I heard
1) Do not be deceived by her makeup and what not:
Since it has become acceptable in church to point out some women are very ugly and you should wash their faces first (this is offensive), I also find it necessary to point out that we equally have as many uglier men. “No man is ugly” is a popular African aphorism widely injected into our culture, as long as he can take care of you, he’s fine, I believe an ugly heart is also displeasing, even more so an empty head. However all hope is not lost as women are beautiful and education is power and power an aphrodisiac. So in all your getting get wisdom.
2) The myth of the man who makes a lot of money
This particularly gets on my nerves, the story is about the man who you reject years ago because of his wretched state and then magically years later he’s a millionaire standing by a Bugatti and the woman ends up rolling in sand and biting her fingers in regret “if only I loved in his wretchedness like that”. This is like the largest bowl of crap ever and I wonder why the woman didn’t try to make her own future and gather her own riches. Don’t wait for some one to offer you the world build your own. The success of the man is never truly yours anyway, make your own decisions.
I cant really remember the rest the meeting was last week. Lastly still on appearances tie your wrapper if you want to, men have nastier habits people don’t easily forget to fuss about. Develop yourself and embrace the world with that fire only women can possess. You are beautiful!
P.S I stand to be corrected, did not read through, so feel free to make corrections and comment.